Etiquette on Public Transportation: Does Age Matter?

Etiquette can be a delicate dance, especially when it comes to public transportation. The question of whether to give up your seat to an elderly person, a pregnant woman, or someone with a disability often prompts a range of opinions and behaviors. Some view it as a moral obligation, while others are less inclined to accommodate needs they might perceive as less critical. Let's explore the nuances of this etiquette and its evolution over time.

The Case for Giving Up Your Seat

There are clear instances where giving up your seat is not just appropriate but often courteous. This includes situations where:

A person is visibly elderly and struggling to navigate the crowded space.

A pregnant woman is visibly uncomfortable and in need of support.

A person with a noticeable disability is visibly in need of assistance.

A person is carrying a large number of packages that make it difficult to stand.

A person looks visibly exhausted or is in need of a break.

While common sense might suggest that these individuals should be given priority, kindness and etiquette extend beyond just physical needs. The willingness to offer a seat often reflects a broader sense of empathy and humanity. By doing so, we contribute to a more cohesive and supportive community.

Personal Perspectives on Etiquette

Some individuals, like the author, may have personal reasons to avoid giving up their seat. For instance, if someone has a severe disability, such as Psoriatic Arthritis (a condition that affects the joints and skin), they might prioritize their own physical well-being by declining to offer their seat. In situations like these, it becomes a matter of self-preservation and health.

The author notes:

‘I’ve given up my seat to people older than me, pregnant women, women with babies or small children, anybody with a disability of some kind, or a lot of packages or who looked tired. ’

These actions reflect a broader spirit of kindness and understanding, even if not everyone chooses to follow suit.

The Evolution of Etiquette

Over the years, etiquette on public transportation has seen a significant evolution. Some positive changes include:

The de-gendering of courtesy rules, such as holding the door open for anyone. This shift can help create a more inclusive and equal environment.

The reduction of gendered norms ensures that everyone can receive help without feeling singled out or labeled.

However, there are also perceived negatives:

Etiquette is becoming less of a cultural value. As society becomes more focused on shock and entertainment, the value of kindness and common courtesy may diminish.

The rise of social media exacerbates this trend, with content that is designed to shock rather than inspire meaningful behavior. Parents striving to raise decent kids may find it difficult given the overwhelming influence of social media.

These changes highlight the ongoing tension between modern values and traditional etiquette.

A Personal Commentary

From the perspective of an older individual, it is clear that etiquette can and does change. Common sense and courtesy would suggest that individuals should offer their seat to elderly persons or pregnant women. However, the likelihood of this happening is decreasing due to the aforementioned modern social trends.

The author reflects:

'Common sense and courtesy would dictate that an individual offer their seat on public transportation to an old person or a woman who is clearly pregnant. But don’t expect it to happen. Common sense is in short supply and courtesy… even less.'

This commentary underscores the lingering effects of societal shifts on interpersonal behavior, highlighting the need for continued emphasis on kindness and empathy in everyday life.